Mind & Body, Raw

On Social Distancing

There is a random stretch of road in Shullsburg, WI, and if you put your car in neutral, it will slowly start to roll…UPHILL.

True story.


Mt Horeb, WI loves their trolls fairytales so much, they decorated the entire town with unique sculptures. It’s so renown, in fact, when they built the bypass over the highway, truckers started calling it Mt Horeb Trollway.

True story.


You might get eaten by a shark in Darlington, WI.

True story.


The Pegasus is real, and he’s beautiful. (Just look at that muzzle. What a ham.)

True story.


This lonely, forgotten memorial in Madison, WI is likely the most beautiful site you’ll ever see.

True story.


How are you social distancing? We took a day trip through southern Wisconsin exploring little known sites, tucked away oddities, and viewed a wondrous countryside which reminded us there is so much of the world to explore outside our scope of imagination. Check out this bizarre mini-seum of concrete sculptures in Shullsburg, WI. Some Austrian guy designed them after he retired in the 50’s.

True story.

This has been,

FanTC

Mind & Body, Thoughts

New Year

What if you adopted a motto instead of making a resolution?

It doesn’t seem like there should be a distinction between the two words. They are both goals which yield results. But I find there is very much a difference, and I would like to present a few mottoes I have adopted.


2008 – I wish to become a positive person.

2016 – I am at peace with my circumstances.

2018-2019 – I do not need to defend my choices or my family.

2020 – (similar to last year) I do not need to justify my actions.

I don’t place much stock in resolutions due to the epic failure rate. Of course, statistics mean nothing to the individual, but I know myself. That’s s big clue…

I know myself.

I am more apt to work on a motto long term. I think about what I want to become and let it sit in my soul all year. I bring it out, review it, make adjustments, and set it back again. These are things which require more mindfulness than action, and they’re not necessarily bound to time.

Not to say one is greater than the other. I feel there is something in the approach which may benefit one person more than another. It really is up to you to know yourself and embrace your strengths.

I find more value in mental and emotional growth than physical and material.

What are you working on this year?

This has been,

Fanny T. Crispin

Mind & Body, Raw

Obligatory Holiday Post

It’s been a pretty good season so far, and now as we reflect on the last day before the end of celebration, we pay closer attention to the important things.

Was I kind in the shopping stores?

Did I keep my temper in check?

Have we instilled love and peace into our children?

Do we care not what we get, but whom we’re with?


There have been some pitfalls this year which took a toll on my trust levels. Every day is a chance to experience and learn about human behavior. It’s not always pretty. I’m learning it is not my responsibility to remedy or attempt to coach someone else’s struggles. It’s taking a step back, realizing I am not the mother of the world, and knowing they will be held responsible for their actions.

This year has also been a test of boundaries. I remind myself boundaries had been placed for a purpose, and I am allowed to set them back in place if they teeter or fall. One wants to trust, but one is not obligated to trust.

While I excitedly enjoy all the festivities of this holiday season, I process the pitfalls carefully. In one hand, I do not want to become angry and bitter again, but on the other, I do not have to experience hurt at another human’s hand (or word or deed.) I am allowed to experience peace and forgiveness. I am allowed to fortify barriers and seek protection.

Be blessed, dear reader, and Merry Christmas.

This has been,

Fanny T. Crispin

Mind & Body, Raw

Personalities

I recommend you go take the Meyers-Briggs personality test over at 16 Personalities . It’s a delightful 20 minute event.

When I first took this test some 9-odd years ago, I actually came up an ENFP which is classified as a Campaigner. I didn’t really understand what that meant, except that the description fit me to a T. Later, after my parents’ divorce, I became an ENFP-T. Turbulent. Unfortunately, I never saved my results, so I can’t remember what that meant for my personality, but it has an ominous ring to it, don’t you think?

Last year, I got the bug to take the test again. I guess I always believed your personality was set in stone, even though 16 Personalities clearly states “Your personality is not set in stone.”

My results shocked me, to be honest. I stared at this new description, I imagine, with my jaw somewhere near my belly button or even my knees. What was an Advocate? I still came up Turbulent, and I feel that is due to my impending career and life-event changes, but how does a Campaigner change into an Advocate, and what does that mean for me?

I have noticed an opportunity to practice my new skillset at work, where I am above the average employee but still under the rule of management. This position advocates for the common employee, while helping to relate the rules set forth by management to the ground floor people.

It’s been fun, exciting, and a little LOT nervewracking, but I’m still growing on God’s green-and-blue Earth, and I imagine I’ll continue growing until He brings me home.


If you’ve taken the test, feel free to share your results and discuss them in the comments!

This has been,

Fanny T. Crispin

Mind & Body, Raw

Love is a Choice; Love Matters

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There’s a reason we say “I love you” even when we’re angry. Just because we are experiencing intense, unpleasant emotions toward someone or a circumstance incurred by them, does not mean we don’t continue loving the people in our lives.

Love is important.

Love matters.

Anger is a natural reaction that occurs when we believe a person, object (yes, object. I get angry and punch objects all the time,) or event upsets our personal order or does us some injustice. Anger is natural. It is also dangerous. In our anger, we might do or say something brash. We lash out, pick fights, get defensive, or even go so far as allow ourselves to hate the offender.

That is why we choose to continue loving the people in our lives. That’s why when your spouse or significant other is being dumb, it’s important to say – out loud – “I love you.”

Even when you don’t feel it…

You’re letting them, and yourself, know it’s going to be okay. You remind them, and yourself, what’s really important. You speak a conviction and uphold a promise you made to them, and yourself. 

I love you.

And I always will.

Even when I don’t feel like it.

Because you’re worth the choice.”

Because you matter. 

And I love you.

*Usual disclaimers apply. Seek help in the event of unlawful abuse, mental or physical, or detriment of health is incurred on your person as an act of violence or malicious intent by someone else.

This has been,

Fanny T. Crispin