Mind & Body, Raw

Obligatory Holiday Post

It’s been a pretty good season so far, and now as we reflect on the last day before the end of celebration, we pay closer attention to the important things.

Was I kind in the shopping stores?

Did I keep my temper in check?

Have we instilled love and peace into our children?

Do we care not what we get, but whom we’re with?

There have been some pitfalls this year which took a toll on my trust levels. Every day is a chance to experience and learn about human behavior. It’s not always pretty. I’m learning it is not my responsibility to remedy or attempt to coach someone else’s struggles. It’s taking a step back, realizing I am not the mother of the world, and knowing they will be held responsible for their actions.

This year has also been a test of boundaries. I remind myself boundaries had been placed for a purpose, and I am allowed to set them back in place if they teeter or fall. One wants to trust, but one is not obligated to trust.

While I excitedly enjoy all the festivities of this holiday season, I process the pitfalls carefully. In one hand, I do not want to become angry and bitter again, but on the other, I do not have to experience hurt at another human’s hand (or word or deed.) I am allowed to experience peace and forgiveness. I am allowed to fortify barriers and seek protection.

Be blessed, dear reader, and Merry Christmas.

This has been,

Fanny T. Crispin

Mind & Body, Raw


I recommend you go take the Meyers-Briggs personality test over at 16 Personalities . It’s a delightful 20 minute event.

When I first took this test some 9-odd years ago, I actually came up an ENFP which is classified as a Campaigner. I didn’t really understand what that meant, except that the description fit me to a T. Later, after my parents’ divorce, I became an ENFP-T. Turbulent. Unfortunately, I never saved my results, so I can’t remember what that meant for my personality, but it has an ominous ring to it, don’t you think?

Last year, I got the bug to take the test again. I guess I always believed your personality was set in stone, even though 16 Personalities clearly states “Your personality is not set in stone.”

My results shocked me, to be honest. I stared at this new description, I imagine, with my jaw somewhere near my belly button or even my knees. What was an Advocate? I still came up Turbulent, and I feel that is due to my impending career and life-event changes, but how does a Campaigner change into an Advocate, and what does that mean for me?

I have noticed an opportunity to practice my new skillset at work, where I am above the average employee but still under the rule of management. This position advocates for the common employee, while helping to relate the rules set forth by management to the ground floor people.

It’s been fun, exciting, and a little LOT nervewracking, but I’m still growing on God’s green-and-blue Earth, and I imagine I’ll continue growing until He brings me home.

If you’ve taken the test, feel free to share your results and discuss them in the comments!

This has been,

Fanny T. Crispin

Mind & Body, Raw

Love is a Choice; Love Matters

Photo credit: http://www.beatport.com

There’s a reason we say “I love you” even when we’re angry. Just because we are experiencing intense, unpleasant emotions toward someone or a circumstance incurred by them, does not mean we don’t continue loving the people in our lives.

Love is important.

Love matters.

Anger is a natural reaction that occurs when we believe a person, object (yes, object. I get angry and punch objects all the time,) or event upsets our personal order or does us some injustice. Anger is natural. It is also dangerous. In our anger, we might do or say something brash. We lash out, pick fights, get defensive, or even go so far as allow ourselves to hate the offender.

That is why we choose to continue loving the people in our lives. That’s why when your spouse or significant other is being dumb, it’s important to say – out loud – “I love you.”

Even when you don’t feel it…

You’re letting them, and yourself, know it’s going to be okay. You remind them, and yourself, what’s really important. You speak a conviction and uphold a promise you made to them, and yourself. 

I love you.

And I always will.

Even when I don’t feel like it.

Because you’re worth the choice.”

Because you matter. 

And I love you.

*Usual disclaimers apply. Seek help in the event of unlawful abuse, mental or physical, or detriment of health is incurred on your person as an act of violence or malicious intent by someone else.

This has been,

Fanny T. Crispin

Mind & Body


Yoga Elephant
Photo Credit: Roberto Blizzard @VeganYogaDude

I used to believe yoga had to be calm, stoic, and intentional. Now I think differently.

The word yoga means “discipline” so the act of practicing yoga is in itself yoga. It is a group of physical, mental, and spiritual practices or disciplines (ones that I do not adhere to very well. In a sense, I lack yoga.)

I do know enough positions and stretches so that I may perform without injury to myself, and I have a basic understanding of muscle tension, warm ups, and muscular functions.

One night, after spending nearly the entire day reading, blogging, Twittering, and otherwise sitting in my rocking chair with a cup of tea and only getting up to refill said tea or to use the bathroom, I became very stiff and sore. To the floor mat I went, humming to myself because I was thoroughly enjoying my day off, and set about on a relaxed, but motivated yoga routine.

It was invigorating to loosen up my muscles, breathing oxygen and blood through them after sitting so long. I immediately felt alert, awake, and energized.

I did not spend much time on the mat, but soon after took the dog on a brisk walk down the street and back. It wasn’t much – maybe five minutes of stretching and five minutes of walking, but the effort was quickly rewarded with a realignment of mind, body, and spirit.

Take some time today to get on the floor and stretch. Unable to get down without fear of getting back up? Stay close to a couch or sturdy chair which you can use to climb back to your feet, or remain standing while stretching your arms, back, and neck.

There’s no need to push perfection or hurry through this time. You’re not out to become the next world renown yogi. Just take care of yourself and your body once in awhile. I promise, it will feel good.

This has been,

Fanny T. Crispin